Showing posts with label Dr. Bob Rich. Show all posts
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Tuesday, September 30, 2025

IWSG Blog Hop: My Favorite Writing and New Book Release by Dr. Bob Rich

 

Insecure Writers Support Group Blog Hop
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What is the Insecure Writer's Support Group?
Founded by author Alex J. Cavanaugh, the Insecure Writer’s Support Group offers support for writers and authors alike. It provides an online database, articles and tips, a monthly blog posting, a Facebook and Instagram group, Twitter, and a monthly newsletter. 
To find out more, click here.
  
The purpose of the group is 
* to share and encourage. 
* Writers can express doubts and concerns 
without fear of appearing foolish or weak. 
* Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. 
*It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds! 

You're invited to become a member of this supportive group. 
Click here to sign up and/or to visit the bloggers this week.

Happy IWSG Day!
Happy October

The awesome co-hosts for the October 1 posting of the IWSG are Beth Camp, Crystal Collier, and Cathrina Constantine!

Hello and Welcome to the Focus on Story blog and to the IWSG Blog Hop!

Before I answer the Blog Hop question of the month, it is my honor to introduce you to an outstanding author and friend from Australia, Dr Bob Rich. He just released his new book, The Hole in Your Life: Grief and Bereavement.

The Hole in Your Life
Bob Rich, PhD

Dr. Bob emailed me this message. "My daughter died in December, and to honour her memory, I had my 20th book published, The Hole in Your Life: Grief and Bereavement. As part of healing from my loss, I want to reduce the suffering of others insofar as it is within my power, and this book is my tool."

This is a timely book as the holiday season approaches. For those who have lost loved ones, the holidays are difficult times when we face the empty seat at the table. The book guides you when your world falls apart, whether because of the loss of a loved person, other disasters like bankruptcy, divorce or natural disaster, or “merely” experiencing second-hand grief at all the suffering we see on the news.

 Dr. Bob has decades of experience in providing counseling and psychological services. This little book, written with humor, uses stories to teach the ways of thinking and acting that help resolve grief. You can read a little about it at http://grief.lhpress.com
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About Dr. Bob:

Bob Rich, Ph.D. earned his doctorate in psychology in 1972. He worked as an academic, researcher and applied scientist until "retiring" the first time at 36 years of age. Later, he returned to psychology and qualified in Counseling Psychology and ran a private practice for over 20 years. During this time, he was on the national executive of the College of Counselling Psychologists of the Australian Psychological Society (APS), then spent three years as a Director of the APS. He was the therapist referrers sent their most difficult cases to.


As you can see from his picture, tiny kids laugh at Bob, perhaps because they think he looks funny. When he walks down the street, strangers smile at him. This comes with the territory of being a Professional Grandfather. Since

Dr. Bob
Author and Grandpa

all sentient beings (on earth and elsewhere) are his family, his joy is to spread smiles, which act as boomerangs. That is very appropriate for an Australian storyteller.

 

One of Bob’s personal cliches is, “Writing is the chocolate icing on the cake of life,” even when it concerns topics like grief and depression. Click here to sample a few of his short stories and essays at his blog, Bobbing Around.

 

His long term policy is to offer a free e-book to any new subscriber to Bobbing Around, and anyone who sends him proof of purchase of one of his books. What have you got to lose but boredom?
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October 1 Question 

What is the most favorite thing you have written, published or not? And why?

This is an easy question to answer. I enjoyed writing a romantic suspense novel, Dangerous Sanctuary. The characters are funny and quirky, and so were the situations they faced. The scenes and conversations about who killed the choir director were not funny. I giggled as I wrote the scene where Pastor Christine is

Dangerous Sanctuary
left with the responsibility of taking care of a kangaroo and a pig.
Why did I write this story about a woman who is the pastor of a small church in a small town in West Michigan? The spark was ignited by a challenge from our pastor (who was a woman) to explain why we were followers of Jesus. She only asked for a short, 3-minute elevator pitch. But instead, I wrote an entire book! As one reviewer said, "There's no preaching."

Back of the Book:

Pastor Christine Hobbs has been in the pulpit business for over five years. She never imagined herself caring for a flock that includes a pig, a kangaroo, and a murderer. 

 Detective Cole Stephens doesn't want the pretty pastor to get away with murdering the church music director. His investigative methods infuriate Christine as much as his deep brown eyes attract her.

 Can they find the real killer and build a loving relationship based on trust?

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Please leave your thoughts below on how you choose your favorite writing project. 

Thanks for stopping in today!!
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Email: jqrose02 @ gmail dot com






Tuesday, December 18, 2018

Excerpt: Going Home for Christmas

Hello and welcome to a very special edition of Focused on Story. Today, I am sharing part of my story, my own story. I've been writing my memoir seriously since 2016 about the first year we were in the floral business in Fremont, Michigan. This excerpt is the story of our returning home to Atlanta, Illinois, for Christmas after moving to Michigan in December 1975.


Looking through Rose-colored Glasses
A Memoir

Synopsis for Looking Through Rose-colored Glasses (working title)
Just like jumping out of a plane without a parachute while holding a one-year-old baby in her arms, Janet and her husband, Ted, leap from the stability of family, friends, and financial security into the uncertainty of fulfilling their dream of owning and operating a floral business. Going against the norms of 1976, believing a woman’s place is in the home, she spends sleepless nights wrestling with how she can balance motherhood with the demands of working outside the home.
With no knowledge or experience operating a business or selling fresh flowers, can they safely land on their feet? The shop owners, Helen and Al, whom they’d just met, assure Ted and Janet the flower business is healthy and they will help them learn how to run the operation. But can they be trusted? Janet and Ted face the monumental task together to nurture their baby daughter and their new business.
Follow their inspiring story, filled with the joy and triumphs and the obstacles and failures experienced by these blossoming entrepreneurs as they travel along the turbulent path of turning dreams into reality.
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Home for Christmas
Photo by Dids from Pexels
Excerpt: Chapter 7--Home for Christmas December 1975. 

(Business owner's names changed to protect identity)



We took off our “rose-colored” glasses and faced the truth. The transition from being “just crazy kids” on an adventure filled with rainbows and lollipops among the roses to adult, responsible business owners became real to us on that trip home. We had prepared ourselves for the move and all the changes in our lives, but we hadn’t considered any kind of a problem with our relationship with Helen. Instead, we came to grips of thinking of her as not a mentor, but rather our nemesis.
            Dread washed over me. What if Helen wouldn’t teach me how to make those enormous funeral arrangements, casket sprays, wreaths? What if she wouldn’t come in to help me learn how to make the flower bouquets and corsages for the weddings and decorate the candelabra?
            We needed her expertise on the lead time we should plan to get our orders in and what wholesale vendors she relied on for her goods. What about the bookkeeping and accounts?

            The only comforting thought I could scratch out of the situation was Helen would help us if she wanted any money from us. If we failed, she would fail. Does she want us to fail? The thought spun through my brain. Could anyone be that wicked?
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Home. There is nothing like coming back home to Atlanta even if we had only been gone about three weeks. I relaxed as I hadn’t done in what seemed like months.
We pulled in to the funeral home where my Mom and Dad lived in the second story apartment, exactly what we were doing—living over the business. They had purchased the funeral home from Dad’s only competition in 1966, so I never called it home. But having my parents there made it home.
Mom practically ran down the steps from the huge wrap around, screened-in porch of the redwood Victorian house. She was at the car door before I could open my door. I had never seen her so happy and giddy. Her joy at seeing us was so evident, I felt a flash of guilt for taking her granddaughter away from her. Mom grabbed Sara and hugged and kissed her while Ted and I unloaded the car and dragged everything upstairs to a huge bedroom in the apartment. Mom had even furnished it with a wooden playpen where Sara could sleep near us.
Mom finally let go of Sara when she decided to get dinner ready. Then my dad took over. He was a tall, handsome gentleman and seeing him sitting with one-year-old Sara in his arms made my eyes shiny with tears. In fact, when she was born, my dad was going to stay home in Atlanta instead of driving up to Marseilles to see the baby. But even his responsibilities at the funeral home didn’t keep him away from Sara. He drove up the minute we came home from the hospital. He was in love with this little gal.
We had a whirlwind of visiting during that Christmas week. We wanted to spend time with each side of the family, but scheduling was tight and exhausting.
Grandmother Mildred, who lived only four miles away, was just as excited to see Sara, yes, Sara. Somehow Sara took the limelight wherever we went. She fussed over her as did Ted’s sisters.
I hated saying good-byes again, but this time my heart didn’t ache. I knew I was ready to begin a new chapter in my life. Atlanta would always feel like home to me, but instead of being sad at leaving, I was exhilarated at the chance to make a new home with Ted and Sara at its center. 

I looked forward to jumping into the excitement and challenge of being a business owner and floral designer.  Watch out Helen, here we come!
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GOOD NEWS: If you enjoyed this excerpt from my memoir, you can read part of the first chapter of the book at Dr. Bob Rich's blog, "Bobbing Around" as an entry in his current contest. I am pleased my first chapter excerpt was chosen by four distinguished judges for the shortlist. The public will choose the winner from the top 10 stories. 

You can read the 1000 word submission along with the other entries at his blog, "Bobbing Around" and he'll send you a free book when you vote!!
Click here to see the 10 entries. 
Vote for 3 of your favorites. Deadline for voting is December 23. Thank you.
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Have you moved away from home to start a new life? Tell us about it. 
Please leave feedback on the excerpt. I'm always looking to improve my writing. Thank you!!


Tuesday, October 2, 2018

Insecure Writers Support Group Blog Hop: Writing Through My Life, Contests



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IWSG Blog Hop---the first Wednesday of every Month.

Hello and welcome to the Insecure Writer's Support Group Blog Hop!


What is the Insecure Writer's Support Group?


Founded by author Alex J. Cavanaugh, the Insecure Writer’s Support Group offers support for writers and authors alike. It provides an online database, articles and tips, a monthly blog posting, a Facebook and Instagram group, Twitter, and a monthly newsletter. To find out more, click this link: 
 Insecure Writer’s Support Group



The purpose of the group is 
* to share and encourage. 
* Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. 
* Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. 
*It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds! 

You're invited to become a member of this supportive group. Click here to sign-up to join.




October 3 questions
 How do major life events affect your writing? 
A writer wears many hats. Dreaming up an idea for an intriguing mystery or constructing complex plots is not the only hat we wear. I classify my writing in several segments--fiction, non-fiction, marketing/promotional, blogging, editing-- to name some of them. When going through difficult times in my life such as the loss of my brother in December or family problems, I handled the promotional writing and blogging. But my creative writing hat fell off completely. The desire to begin a story drained out of me like cooked noodles in a colander leaving me about as limp and colorless as the noodles too. I have worked my way through the stages of grief, but it takes time to recover. Time is helping to restore my focus on creative writing.
Has writing ever helped you through something?
My WIP is a memoir from 1975-76 when we moved from a small town in Central Illinois to start a flower business in West Michigan. We had no family or friends in the area. Placing myself back in that time and remembering what a difficult relationship we had with the previous owners gave me a new perspective on their situation. 
We felt the same way as the previous owners when we sold that business in 1995 to some young whipper-snappers who didn't want to listen to our advice. And yes, that young couple would have been us in 1975 when we opened our business. But in 1995 we were the sellers. Experiencing the giving up of our life's work was a traumatic time. Looking through the lens of time helped me to understand and appreciate the emotions searing through a person in such a life-changing experience. 
I finally forgave the couple who sold us the business for their harsh treatment of us and can now smile when I think about the rocky relationship we had with the couple who bought our business. Now I see how much we were like them, ready to take on the world and be our own boss. Lots of energy and enthusiasm and determined to do things our way, the new way. Writing the memoir has lessened the pain and disappointment I have carried about the couples we dealt with in each situation.
Have you written or tried writing stories from your life? Do you have family stories you remember whenever your gang gets together? How does re-telling those times help you? Please leave a comment below. Thank you.
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Dr. Bob Rich--Free Edit Contest--Deadline is October 15

Win a free edit of your book by submitting a synopsis and a 1000 words of the book. Click here for details. Good luck! 
Click here to visit his informative and thought-provoking blog, Bobbing Around.




The 5 W's in Story Guest Authors on Pinterest Board

All of the authors who shared the 5 W's in their stories since March 2018 are on the board I created at my Pinterest site. 
You can also be featured on the board by being my guest for the 5 W's Event. 
Click here to see the board. 
Contact me at jqrose02 at gmail dot com if you would like to participate this winter. Thank you!
October 31--Author Sandy Carlson shares the 5 W's in her ghost story. Perfect for a Halloween guest post!

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Amazon Giveaway--Celebrating this scary Halloween holiday, I am going to offer my first Amazon Giveaway--a paranormal suspense novel, Terror on Sunshine Boulevard. A mix of fright and humor in a senior retirement community. I'll announce the giveaway on the blog and on Facebook the week it starts. Have you done an amazon giveaway? Any advice? Thanks.
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The IWSG members blog the first Wednesday of every month.  The list of bloggers is always available so you can hop around to the author blogs filled with humor, advice, and thought-provoking topics on writing and publishing. 
Find the list of participants at Alex's IWSG page. 
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Tuesday, August 7, 2018

The Five W's in Dr. Bob Rich's Hit and Run, Win a FREE eBook, FREE Book Edit Contest

The 5 W's of Stories
Hello and welcome to the Focused on Story blog. We continue with the guest author series, The 5 W's--who, what, where, when and why. I'm thrilled to have Australian author Dr. Bob Rich visiting this week. He shares about his latest release, Hit and Run. (I must add, as per usual, Bob is not following the rules.)

At the end of the blog post, be sure to check out all the prizes Bob is generously offering. 


Hit and Run by Dr. Bob Rich

My Review of Hit and Run by Dr. Bob Rich

I was privileged to receive an advance copy of Bob's book, so I thought I'd share the review with you.


Hit And Run by Dr. Bob Rich demonstrates how the world would be a much better place if we could stop the “endless cycle of hate begets hate, vengeance leads to vengeance, and violence feeds on itself.” The premise of the story of 84-year-old Sylvia Kryz helping a troubled 14-year-old boy, Charlie, is a call-out to readers to consider if “love can turn hate into love.” She spearheads a movement to help the boy who intentionally ran over elementary age school children and the crossing guard and killed them, narrowly missing Sylvia, and then drove off.
What a heinous act! Who in the world could ever forgive this malicious behavior? Who could defend Charlie’s wanton destruction of lives?
Sylvia could. Accepting there are people in this world like Sylvia was difficult for me. She took his side once she learned about Charlie’s upbringing and understood the motive for his behavior. I especially enjoyed the paranormal visits to Sylvia by Charlie. Suspend your disbelief and accept it because those scenes really make the story sparkle. The author included a lot of detail in the book about the legal steps needed to defend Charlie and about Sylvia’s family to deepen the reader’s bond with Sylvia. As I read, I questioned if this book was based on a true story. Could there be real people like Sylvia?  Sylvia’s actions inspire readers. But did her heroic efforts prove that love is greater than hate? Not telling. Grab this novel and hang on for an emotional roller-coaster ride through the pages.

The 5 W's in Hit and Run by Dr. Bob Rich

Janet, thank you for the honor of featuring me on your blog. Usually, I find it impossible to fit into other people’s rules, but yours is so sensible that even I can do it. Only, I am mixing up the order.

Why

I’ve recently finished my next book. It’s non-fiction: From Depression to Contentment: A self-therapy guide. One of the chapters is on how to help a loved one who is tortured by depression. Here is a short extract:
When members of my family suffered from some devastating event, all I could do was to give them a loving hug, be there for them, let them tell me anything without judgment or advice, let them say nothing if that was what they needed to do at the time.
Not only could I not do therapy with relatives or even friends, it actually would have been unethical for me to do so. That is termed a “dual relationship,” and is a no-no for a reason. You’re sure to share the emotions of people you care for. You cannot lead someone out of an emotion by joining in.
Here is an example of how I achieved “professional distance” when needed.
I once had a “victim of crime” client: a blind old gentleman whom a bunch of teenagers bashed up. They also hurt his old seeing-eye dog. I visited him at home. When I left, I worried that I wouldn’t be able to work with him, because my sense of outrage got in the way of the professional relationship. So, that evening I started what I thought would become a short story in which a far worse criminal teenager would get just retribution. This is the standard technique of “displacing emotion.” I invented two people: a fourteen year old boy who murdered six little kids and a woman. The second character was an old lady, Sylvia, who was the witness. Only, Sylvia then took charge, and the story became one of the power of compassion. It grew into a novel, Hit and Run, which many of my fans have considered as my best. 

What

The book is a private journal Sylvia decided to keep, of her nine months of contact with the multiple murderer, whose birth certificate named him as Chuck (because his mother had chucked up all through pregnancy). Sylvia insisted on calling him Charlie, because she refused to join into abuse-by-name.
So, it’s a detailed record, kept by an old lady. If I’d written it, it would be quite different in many ways. For example, in her youth, she was firmly trained never to say or write obscenities. Charlie, and everyone from his background, used them with abandon. So, while I’d have let them rip on the page, she felt the need to partly blank them out, as in “f--” Please excuse her for this. I remember reading Angela’s Ashes, which is a great book, but has not a single quotation mark to indicate conversation. This grated for a few pages, then I got used to it.
She also drank lots of tea, which I don’t particularly like. However, her baking was delicious.
Sylvia was an artist, with eidetic imagery, both for vision and sound. That’s highly unusual, but does happen. Her drawings of Charlie enabled the police to catch him. Her memory for words ensured that her record of the many emergencies and challenges they went through was accurate.

Where

I live in Australia, and Sylvia graced this country with her life for almost 85 years.
Australia’s two largest cities are Sydney and Melbourne. Somehow, from the details I got from her journal, I’d best describe the location as Sydbourne. It’s clearly on the eastern seaboard, in a moderate climate with no worse than cold and rain in winter, but she hasn’t given me any further details.
But then, this story is about people, who are much the same everywhere. If Sylvia could turn hate, anger, despair and hopelessness into Love in Sydbourne, you can do the same wherever you live.

When

That’s easy, because two documents within the book are dated. It was in 2014 and 2015.

But what happened?

See? I couldn’t keep with your requirements after all.
Chuck hated everyone, except for his little brother, Tommy. If he could have, he’d have blown up the planet. So, he decided on suicide, by killing as many people as possible. He planned out several possible actions. As the first, he stole an old car, and used it to drive over six little kids and the crossing guard. He missed old Sylvia by inches.
That night, mysteriously, he, his image, his representation, appeared in front of her. All he wanted was to kill her, too, but was unable to move. Despite his fury, foul language and aggressiveness, she treated him with respect, and reacted to him in the way she did to everyone: with empathy and decency.
This contact kept repeating, but it was somehow in his control. She used his love for Tommy as a lever in starting him on the way to positive change.
There was a memorial service for the murder victims. When someone stated a wish for vengeance, she was outraged enough to get up on stage.

I thought of the hell Charlie had lived in, the horrible conditions that had twisted him and sent him over the edge. I knew I had to say something. I struggled to my feet. I walked forward, unsteady because my stick still lay on the floor by my chair. Instantly, Vlad was by my side, and helped me up the steps. I'd never used a microphone before, but had often seen others do it. I simply spoke.
“I was there, within inches of being killed myself, but God has spared me for a purpose, and now I know what that purpose is.
"Mr McRae, you and your wife have suffered a terrible tragedy. Nothing can fill the hole in your lives. And yet, I heard not one word of hate and vengeance in what you said. Why did Chuck Debnall steal a car in order to find someone, anyone, to kill? What drove him to this crazy, cruel act?
"He was hurting, filled with hate. In his fourteen years, he'd known nothing but cruelty, abuse, violence. His very name is an abusive joke against him. So, he struck back in vengeance. Like Catholics and Protestants for hundreds of years in Ireland, like Arabs and Jews in the Middle East, he wanted to repay hurt with hurt. To him, the enemy was all humanity, so he didn't care who his victims would be.
"Mr McRae, Charles has a little brother, only six years old. He speaks with a foul mouth like... a drunken sailor. He can be violent, because it's the only way he's ever seen. In his short life, he has experienced a long succession of drunken, drug-taking men who spent time with his mother, and they're his only model. But inside, he's a sweet little child, like your Katie was. Suppose you were to take him into your hearts? Then he'd have a chance to grow up into a man like you, instead of following the only path he's seen so far--the path of hate and violence that's turned his older brother into a murderer.
"Hate begets hate, vengeance only leads to vengeance, violence feeds on itself. Only love can stop the endless cycle. Only love can turn hate into love.
"Charles has done a terrible thing. He has hurt us. Should we therefore hate him, and wish him harm? Then we act from the same motives that twisted his young soul. Maybe, maybe, we as a community can do something to teach him a better way, a way of decency and kindness and respect. Maybe we can do this for others of his kind.
"The Reverend said, '"Vengeance is mine," said the Lord.' But Jesus said, 'Love thine enemies.' I think that's a better guide."

I won’t tell you more about the story, except that I’ve been told it’s a page-turner. Yes, Sylvia managed to reform Charlie. Yes, she recruited the grieving community to become his support team. Incidentally, both these are based on research. There are many real-life examples of “violent no-hopers” turning into decent people, and of survivors of criminal actions ending up motivated to help lead criminals to a better way of seeing the world. At the end of the book, I very briefly discuss some of this evidence. 

You can read my short story, Armour-coating Our Kids with a similar theme. Click here to read the story on Bob's blog.

Hit and Run by Dr. Bob Rich

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About Bob

Dr. Bob Rich has retired so far from five different occupations. Of those remaining, the most important is being a Professional Grandfather. He has beloved genetically related grandchildren and great-grandchildren, but also many hundreds of others, all over the planet. Any person under 25 qualifies. They only need to apply.
Dr. Bob Rich

Many do so by sending him an anguished email. His words often make a difference, and some of these contacts last for years.
Because he passionately cares for the welfare of young people, he is a committed environmental and humanitarian campaigner. We live in an insane global culture that encourages and rewards the worst in human nature: greed, aggression, territoriality, fear and hate of “the other,” short-term thinking. 
Everything he has done since the 1970s is aimed at moving culture toward encouraging and rewarding the best in human nature: empathy, compassion, cooperation.
We are now in the 6th extinction event in Earth’s history. When we unravel the web of life, we also fall through the hole. So, live simply, so you may simply live.
If this message resonates with you, click here to visit Bob's blog.

Look around, and if you like what you read, click the Follow button.


Enter for a chance to win! 

1. Bob says, "I am happy to give a free copy of any of my books to each of three commenters, randomly chosen. Winners can pick the book they want at Bob's Writing." Leave a comment below for a chance to win one of Bob's books. Deadline to enter is11:59 pm. ET, Wednesday, August 15.

2. Bob is generously offering a FREE edit of your book. Click here for details on how to enter this contest at his blog.

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Thanks so much, Bob, for being my guest and for the opportunity to gift a book to three commenters!

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Thrilled to have more guest authors this month and beyond sharing the Five W's of their stories! Come back and discover authors and great reads to wind up the summer. And You may win a book too!!

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