HOW TO BEGIN RECORDING YOUR LIFE STORY PART 2
by J.Q. Rose
Telling the story of
our lives is one of the most important activities of the later years. It
reminds us that we are still emerging, growing people. It shows us how we have changed and how we
have been transformed… Life review is…a stabilization in the security of the
past so that we can go beyond to embrace the future. –Jane Marie Thibault
Opening up your memories and organizing your story.
Did you try drawing your time line? Some of us have more years to include in that line and a lot more stories to tell about our lives. Don’t get overwhelmed with the length of that line. Celebrate it!
Remember you eat an elephant one bit at a time. So pick and choose stories that you have shared many times with friends and family.
Memoirs don’t have to be done in chronological order. In fact they can be a string of vignettes. Write what comes easily at first. We all have those stories we tell every time the family gets together. The kids always want to hear them and stay at the table for stories. (That is evidence of the importance of you sharing your story with the next generations. They want to listen to your story instead of grabbing their tablets! Amazing...)
Begin by writing that story down or making notes for your audio or video recording. You've told it or heard it many times, so it should be easy. Have fun with it.
I began memoir writing by telling our daughters’ birthday stories. When they were kids they loved hearing about the day they were born so I set it down on paper. They were adults when on their respective birthdays, I slipped the story in their birthday card. They were delighted. As each grandson arrived, finally a granddaughter, I recorded the story of their birthday too and gave it to the mom as a keepsake for the child.
Ways to Open Up Your Memories
Free Writing--Choose a topic from your memory bank and begin writing about the topic. Don't stop to plan it out, just begin writing and don't let your pen or pencil leave the page or you fingers leave the keyboard. Let it flow. Never mind about grammar and punctuation because noone is going to see this except you. Be sure to include your emotions about the topic and let it all out.
Here are some topics to choose from to give you an idea--automobiles, travel, sports event, fine arts production, a relative, pets, and toys.
I Am From Poem--Get your creative juices flowing with this poem which will allow you to pull out memories and set them down in poem form. This exercise is taken from the Chrysallis website. Visit it to read how several folks filled in the blanks.
I Am From Poem
Template
I am from _______ (specific
ordinary item), from _______ (product name) and _______.
I
am
from
the _______ (home description... adjective, adjective, sensory detail).
I
am
from
the _______ (plant, flower, natural item), the _______ (plant, flower, natural
detail).
I am from _______ (family
tradition) and _______ (family trait), from _______ (name of family member) and
_______ (another family name) and _______ (family name).
I am from the _______
(description of family tendency)
and _______ (another one).
From
_______ (something you were told as a child) and _______ (another).
I am from (representation
of religion, or lack of it). Further description.
I'm from _______ (place
of birth and family ancestry), _______ (two food items representing your
family).
From
the _______ (specific family story about a specific person and detail), the
_______ (another detail), and the _______ (another detail about another family
member).
I am from _______
(location of family pictures, mementos, archives and several more lines
indicating their worth).
# # # #
Talented writer and friend, Tanja Cilia, shares her touching poem that she created using this template. Thanks so much, Tanja.
I think this will certainly stir us to try writing the poem about our life story.
Where Are You From?
I am from sea-urchins and anchovies, and from
Lighthouse Sea Salt and the Mediterranean’s best-kept secret island... I am
from the Grand Harbour view flat, cosy, homely, comfortable, an islander who
feels as much at home in the water as outside it.
I am from the tiger lily freckles and the
honeysuckle tendrils, and orange blossom water used as scent because it smells
faintly of 4711.
I am from the lion rampant holding the
fleur-de-lys; the stubborn and the witty, the tall and the big-footed. I am
from the Paul and the Catherine, but also from Valletta, Vittoriosa and Zabbar.
I am from the parsimonious yet generous, proud
yet humble, solitary yet friendly clan. The ones who lisp. From the intelligent
and gifted and clumsy and inept. The bookish. The let’s do crafts but not
homework especially if it’s mathematics.
I am from the Catholic Pessimist and Jewish
Cynic and Agnostic Believer. I read and I write and I empathise with most.
I'm from Malta, land of honey, capers, prickly
pears and olives, from if I’ve told you once I’ve told you a thousand times.
And Linz in Austria. And Foggia in Italy. And anchovy and spinach pie and
rabbit stew and vegetable soup with ham hock.
From the person who had stalls in the
marketplace, from the person who did bobbin lace without using a pattern, from
one who preserved fruits and vegetables and sold them to support her family,
from the person who made designer patchwork quilts from fents.
I am from the sideboard drawers bursting at
the seams with millions of photographs in sepia and monochrome. I am from
Alexandria, Egypt, but also from a cauldron of Phoenician, Carthaginian, Norman
and French genes.
I am me.
Tanja Chilja
Please feel free to work on this poem for the next several weeks, then come back and post your poem in the comments section. Yes, I WILL reward you with a fun prize if you do so. Have fun with it and yes, you can tweak this however you wish.
Organizing Your Life Story
Life review yields
long-term gains that enrich character by bringing understanding to events. The
patterns in your life become more discernible among the wreckage and the
romance, more like a well-plotted novel that reveals characters through their
actions and reactions. ----James
Hillman
Now is the time to begin writing
your story. But how do you organize all these anecdotes, these precious times
in your life?
Organizing Stories
There is no hard and fast rule
about how to organize the stories. I do believe each person has to take some
time to first write the easy stories to tell. Once you start writing and
conversing with friends and family about the old days, so many stories will
surface. Write them all down without worry about organization. Keep them in
your three ring binder.
1. Themes--The more you write the
more you may discover there are themes to your stories. There may be several
accounts about being a caretaker for your parents, a hobby you love, pets you
have had over the years, the story of an illness. birthings in your life (not only your birth, but the birth children or family members, ideas, businesses.) Each topic will be a theme which you can expand.
2. Chronological Order--It is easy to write only the facts when writing chronologically, but in life stories writers need to include their feelings about what is happening to them in their lives. Describe the people and location where the story takes place and allow the reader a chance to step into the scene. Remember to show, not tell, the story.
3. Relate happenings in the
present to something in the past e.g. the movie/book Julie and Julia. The story
follows the exuberant chef, Julia Childs in the past and the present story of
Julie who decided to write a blog about making every single recipe in Julia’s
cookbook every day for a year.
You must have control
of the authorship of your own destiny. The pen that writes your life story must
be held in your own hand. -- Irene C. Kassorla
Adding these familiar tips as a reminder--
The Five W’s and How
When writing your memoir,
remember your journalism class and the prof expounding on the five w’s—who,
what, where, when, why, and how. It is very important to explain to readers of
the future who this person is and how he/she is related to you, the location, the
dates when the action takes place, and why this particular episode in your life
is significant to you.
Show and Tell
In every good story, there must
be more showing than telling to keep the reader’s interest. Dialogue is an
interesting way to help move the story along. Using the five senses immerses the
reader into the story. Include interesting characteristics of your subject to
bring them to life. I have a woman in our family, who shall remain nameless,
who picked her nose all the time she talked to me. Maybe you have an uncle like
I did who prayed and prayed and prayed before a meal. And how about my aunt
whose mustache was so dark that when she died, the undertaker shaved it off and
nobody recognized her in the casket?
Hope you're all geeked up to begin writng about your life. Jump right in and go for it. It doesn't have to be an award-winning epistle. Just do it. Let me know how you're doing by leaving a comment below or drop me an email at jqrose02 at gmail dot com. Feel free to ask questions. Thanks for stopping by today!
After writing feature articles in magazines, newspapers, and online magazines for over fifteen years, J.Q. Rose entered the world of fiction beginning with mysteries, Sunshine Boulevard, and Coda to Murder, published by Muse It Up Publishing. With Girls Succeed!, a non-fiction e-book for girls, she returned to her first love, writing about real people.
